I never thought I'd be writing this blog. Before motherhood, I was like 'OMG I am NOT gonna be one of those mothers who stays home all the time and is afraid of the world." And though I am not the extreme of that, I do get comments and 'advice' from others on not getting out enough. First of all, you can not really say what you would do, because, as all momma's say, 'Every baby is different." And this is true. Cora is a wonderful baby. But she is not perfect. She has her days, her weeks, her fussy moments, her now teething moments, reflux and her naps that are SO unpredictable. And right before she falls asleep she WEEPS because, like her mama, she hates going to sleep. Sometimes I wish I could weep and just stay awake all day and night as well. So, her animalistic weeping in public may send child services my way. I'd like to avoid that as much as I can.
I do take her out. And it isn't always easy. Sometimes it is. But I look at it as if I don't HAVE to go out (for an event or just because I am going stir crazy in the house), then why push it, this is a few months of our lives? We go to family events mostly, and other events when obligated. But to me, going to Target with the baby just to go to Target with the baby isn't my schtick. I think it's great for those who want to, but me and Target have a very special relationship. I enter Target and my heart immediately jumps with joy and I know I will be spending the, at least, next hour there...rushing through the grocery aisle, then slowly perusing the clearance end caps and home decor aisles with a skip in my step. That step is gonna turn into a run if I have lil bean with me. Target is for times the hubs is home and mama wants to run wild like a bull toward a red flag. I still have my girl wine nights, too. These are both times I greatly treasure. And although I love my bean with all my heart, I don't want her to taint my relaxed Target time. Or wine night for that matter. GO NIGHT NIGHT! MAMA WANTS TO ESCAPE!
Restaurants are another joyous occasion, that until she can sit and play with her food and shoot it across the table, I would like to do sporadically. Once in a while to catch up with a friend during the day, break up the day, sure. But if it is too far, mama says no like it is drugs. Or if she is having a fussy day...Eh, not in the cards. Maybe I will get judged for it. The beauty of it is, she is our baby and Mike and I get to make these decisions, nobody else. I am not sure if there are kind words for people who want to tell me how to raise my child. So I won't say any. And that it is best for her to get out more and be around germs (do you KNOW you are talking to a germophobe?!). I know she will grow up social like her mama (she talks more than I do!), she will get sick the same as other kids and neither of us will probably even remember these first few months. Luckily my husband and I have similar beliefs/parenting skills so far :)
Being a part of community websites, both specifically for moms, and just in general, you realize EVERYYYONE has something to say when it comes to parenting. And that is what makes us all different and the world go round. Luckily I have a lot of parent friends that were/are like me, and their kids are juuust fine. These early months go by so fast, if the worst thing I do is spend more alone quality time at home with my bean, I will take it.
Smearing anti bac on my hands after opening the mail,
(Lil bean, please don't pick up mama's germ fears!!)
Bumpless Baby Mama
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