Adoption Support Group: LIbraries Scare Me and I Just Want To Eat and Laugh!

So I think I mentioned I was joining an #adoption support group in my 'hood.  I think I may branch off and start one of my own after we start this one.  I was going to do both, but now just may start my own #alwayshastobetheleader.  They only meet once a month and it is at the LIBRARY?!  I mean that has always been my least favorite place in life!  I was forced to go there as a child.  To me, it represents being really quiet and has bad memories of the place I most often got detentions!  DON'T MAKE ME GO BACK!  Once I hit college, I only went there once, and it wasn't even IN the library, but in between the double doors at a table to study with a fellow student.  I mean, they couldn't even get me to enter the actual building.  Me and the library are enemies.  I know it is a place of knowledge and books and lots of people love it.  To me, it smells like old books, reminds me of the dewey decimal system and brings flashbacks of after school with the librarian, writing 'I will not (fill in the blank)' 100 times.  Like spitballs even hurt?!? ;)

I had suggested Panera or another local restaurant, more casual and FUN!  nobody going "SHHHHHHHHHH" at you and FOOD is involved!  After I originally suggested that, everyone was game except one woman who said "I don't feel comfortable there, we are discussing private matters."  FIRST of all, nobody at Panera is going to be listening to a bunch of ol ladies talking about their dried up eggs and our sad stories.  NOBODY CARES LADY, they are gossiping about coworkers while eating bread bowls!  So turns out the leader has now booked a room at the hideous library so we can all weep together in the corner.   To me, this whole adoption thing is like a celebration, I am VERY PROUD to adopt.  I am excited about adopting and I know there may be hard times, there HAVE been hard times.  But for those really rough days, I have my husband, friends and family.  And donuts!  It is one thing to make better friends through the group that become closer to you that you can lean on, but I didn't picture us all laying on a couch telling our sob stories two hours a month.  But I guess that is what it is.  I would rather start a fun group, that sure, you can talk about your woes with, but more focus on the happy things, moving on (relevant to people with fertility issures) and celebrating life via adoption!   I will go and see how it is, but I have a feeling I will start my own group.  Maybe called "Happy Heart Bumps"? 

Get off the couch, it is time to live!





Sitting in Panera shoving my excited face,
Bumpless Baby Mama