Oy Vey! This Wait May be a While!

Our agency sends out these lovely newsletters reporting birthparents who have placed and their 'situations' that include, if they have mental health issues, substance abuse, etc.  It is basically statistics of the matches in the agency.   I have explained before that we had to check off all these boxes to let them know what situations we 'accept'.  WELL, I knew our form was conservative, but out of all of the birthmothers that came back this month, only ONE would have matched us if we were in the pool, and the odds of her picking us seem pretty slim since so many people probably matched with her.  Like, technically even people that are open to cocaine addicts would be matched with a non cocaine addict...nawww mean?!  I wish they were just like, "Oh, Peter and Clara, you are open to cocaine use?  We will just go ahead and wait until one comes through, then, so the people that don't accept cocaine can match with the cokeless mothers."  Totally wouldn't be fair, but it would make our journey shorter ;)

I see how people get all freaked and start being more open to certain things they never thought they would be open to.  I mean, if you are getting a newsletter that says, "Hey LOOK at all of these 30 birthmothers that placed this month!!"  and you match to none or just one of them, after months of that you probably start to think CRAP we better open up our options!  A lil meth never hurt anyone!  A lil oxycotton never hurt anyone either!  Oh wait, yes it did.  We have a couple of things we MAY waver on that we discussed (smookin da gaanjga, dr prescribed drugs in certain trimesters, etc.), if we feel we are waiting forever, but never any of the non-prescribed man-made drugs and no major alcohol drinking through pregnancy.  We do have it marked off as acceptable in the first trimester because you know if I didn't know I was preggo I may be doin shots swingin upside down (I JOKE I JOKE, not upside down!).  On the real, lots of these women do not know they are pregs right away so may be sippin on some vino.  If they were like RAGING drinkers during trimester one, the agency WILL call you to ask if you are ok with it. The convo may go a little something like this: "Hi, we have a match here for you, however she was in college and did binge drink on 4 occasions in her first trimester, is that acceptable to you?  "Sure, as long as it was fireball shots, I want a redhead!." OK OK, I will stop.  In all seriousness, it is all completely nerve wracking and we just have to leave it up to the man upstairs.  Not Santa Clause, God.  If we left it up to Santa, we would get an elf.  But that big guy God has been very good to us and I believe we will have our meant to be baby whenever they decide to come into this world!  But I DO see how this can and will be quite an emotional ride for us!  Hands up, eyes shut!!!  I said, CLOSED guys.

It is gonna drive me to drinkin, thinkin about all these people drinkin!
Bumpless Baby Mama